Relationship counseling while dating
In the first 3-6 months of a relationship, you are likely running on oxytocin, which is a chemical found in chocolate.
It creates the sense of well-being and euphoria that comes with “falling in love.” This might as well be dubbed the period of temporary insanity, because you are not in command of all your faculties; your brain is hijacked by those lovely chemicals, interfering with your ability to think clearly.
Often people tend to do this if there is a problem with low self-esteem.
Valuing yourself enough to put your needs on the table as well as the other person’s is key in establishing balance and harmony.
Alternatively, we might be so fearful of getting hurt, betrayed or rejected, that we exit stage left just as the play gets going. Do you plunge into the deep end, only to find that the water is way too cold? Getting overly involved too soon is a big red flag.Unless you can ascertain and directly communicate your needs (by being clear and specific), then you are basically operating on a child level.While many people get by this way, it is not very effective, and puts you at a disadvantage when you are trying to get your needs met.Address these problems early, and don’t waste your time. Interrogating your date: “How many children do you want” is not a good opening sentence.You want to show interest by asking about their likes or dislikes, but not press someone for information.