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So, maybe she, in turn, is going ahead and and exhasting all her efforts to make her boyfriend change becasue she thinks this is what love is.If you can just back off, let her make her own decisions (and take the consequences) and pray for her, you will show her that this is what love is...allowing someone to make their own decisions.I work with people everyday who come in wanting to change someone else.It is so freeing to them to learn to deal with the fears on their own level and to give responsibility back to the person who they wanted to change. Knowing your fears can be a important part for her to figure out this problem. If you do it for her she can not learn what she needs to learn.
I have had many talks with her and have exhausted all efforts but will never give up on her. I finally gave up Mr exciting- bad boy and went for a stable nice guy. We started out as friends first because he was just too nice, no drama. My thing was I thought I could change him for the better. What made me open my eyes was a friend I met in college.
Then she might find a guy who also knows how to make his own good decisions.
Hang in there with friendship and support if she asks for it or gets her heart broken, but I would stop trying to change her mind or her choices.
She knows and has admitted to me that she realizes this guy is not what she wants, but she said he is a comfort to her for some reason and she finds it hard to break away.
He can't keep a job, he doesn't own or rent, he now lives with a cousin, he doesn't have any money, he continues to lie to her.. He can be charming but come on, you need more than a heart, you need a brain too - remember the wizard of Oz?
I throw a bit of humor in there, but truly, this situation has really taken its toll on me. I encouraged her to start counseling, which she has begun. I dated my highschool sweetheart from my Soph year in highschool until my soph year in college.