But keep in mind, I never slept with anyone without disclosing that I had herpes.’ Can you still have a satisfying sex life when living with genital herpes?Charities and herpes associations agree that it’s completely possible to have fun, loving and romantic bedroom frolics with your partner.Condom use doesn’t guarantee protection from herpes, as they don’t always cover the entire affected area of the sufferer and there can still be skin to skin contact around the exposed region.Taking antiviral medication reduces the risk of an outbreak, but also doesn’t guarantee that a partner wouldn’t be exposed to the virus.‘Some dates I never planned on sleeping with so I never told them and never slept with them.I decided that if a guy didn’t want to be with me because of herpes then he was not worth my time.
Sometimes it would be three-to-four months before disclosing.It took years of work to get me to the point where I’m now. If I get an outbreak I know how to treat it and help the outbreak heal as fast as possible.I know that it’s just a skin disease and it doesn’t play any role in my life.’ Herpes is split into the HSV-1 virus, also known as herpes simplex or oral herpes, that causes cold sores and mouth ulcers, and HSV-2, the genital herpes virus characterised by painful red blisters around the genital region. The virus can remain dominant for months or years at a time, and it’s estimated that most people with either condition don’t even know they have it.Or sometimes people just want to lay it all out on the table to weed out prospects.‘Others prefer to take their time, to see if they really like the other person and to make sure they want to be in a relationship.
It was very hard to tell a guy I liked that I had herpes, hoping that they would still want to date me.’ Alexandra also admits that she has used the ‘herpes card’ to her advantage if there was someone she didn’t want to have sex with.