Friends re dating
“From my experience, women hate the idea of clearly explaining their interest.It may not be as ‘romantic’ as you’d like, but at the end of the day, if a guy is not sure about your interest, he won't swing.”3. Be honest with yourself: Are you on the fence some of the time, unsure if you want to move your friend chemistry into a full-blown relationship? Jeff, a 45-year-old ad agency owner, instantly hit it off with a female co-worker, who he was interested in pursuing after he moved on to a new job. A collection of mixed signals, like skipping my goodbye happy hour and ghosting me on some texts that dropped hints about grabbing dinner,” he says.And the more he likes you, the more he may convince himself it’s better to be in your friendzone than out of your life—and all your so-called “hints” are falling on deaf ears.“Girls have a terrible tendency to communicate in ways guys don’t recognize and, yes, we are a bit thick,” he insists.You two have obvious chemistry—you flirt, you chat, you hang out—but the buck stops there. Since this generation of singles is more emotionally-evolved than ever before, traditional dating norms have basically been tossed out the window, says psychologist Karla Ivankovich, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Illinois, Springfield.Even confident guys freak at the thought of you saying you’re “just not that into him,” says Connor, a 24-year-old music management rep.
He helped you move apartments last year, and made dinner with all your favorites that week your boss decided to rule with an iron fist.“Even if common interest seems to be there, this is a big one,” Sam says.“Saying, ‘I'm just being single right now,’ or ‘I’m focusing on work,’ or the like is the worst, because that person is implying that a good relationship would hinder their life!There's nothing wrong with that—especially since you might actually feel the same way.But if you're feeling it with a friend, it's worth thinking about making a move.
“Relationships, platonic or otherwise, are initiated out of mutual interest or compatibility, and the draw of attractiveness is certainly a primary factor,” says Ivankovich.