Dating dealbreakers video games
Living at home with your parents during college and even for a while after is normal.
Lots of people do it because they want to save a little money before being on their own.
It’s hard to get in the mood when you know your boyfriend’s mom is right downstairs watching I don’t want to be the first person he lives with other than his parents.
I’m too old to be the one teaching a guy how to grocery shop for himself, keep up with all his bills, clean the bathroom on a regular basis, and remember to stock up on toilet paper.
It’s not that they’re purposely trying to be rude, they just have no idea leaving their dirty dishes in the sink for days is frowned upon. What possible reason could there be for him to still live in his parents’ house other than he can’t manage his money? Is he paying them rent, or is he saving up for a down payment on a house?
Admittedly, my first thought upon hearing a 30-year-old lives with his parents is that he can’t afford to live anywhere else. Most people start thinking about getting their own place by their early 20s, give or take a couple years. It could be for any number of reasons, most of which come back to the fact that he doesn’t want to be an adult. Most parents expect their kids to move out on their own at some point, but if his parents have never mentioned it, don’t ask him to pay rent, and genuinely seem like they want him to stay, why would he ever leave?
That being said, I’m 29 and one of my dealbreakers has to be a guy who still lives with his parents — especially if he’s never lived anywhere his childhood bedroom.
Basically, I’m used to being the only one around, and that’s how I like it.
I need my space, and I want a guy who understands that. Not that I don’t like his mom — I’m sure she’s lovely! I don’t want to meet his mom the first time I ever go to his house, and I don’t want to “stay for dinner” every time, either. Obviously not every guy who lives with his parents still lets his mom do his laundry, but some do (believe me, I know), and if a guy who’s almost 30 can’t do his own laundry, he’s a certified man-child.
If a guy doesn’t list his sign in his dating profile, it’s one of the first questions Aysen asks when they get to chatting.
“I know you can’t paint everyone with the same brush, but for whatever reason, [Aquarians’] core values are all the same — they internalize all their feelings, it’s difficult to read them and they’re noncommittal,” says Aysen, an Aries who is more in the market for a Leo these days.
She considers it the number-one dating red flag, and won’t even talk to guys who don’t lean one way or the other.